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A phobia is defined as an irrational, intense fear of an object or situation that poses little or no actual danger. At first glance, a phobia may seem similar to a normal fear, but it’s is the degree to which a person is affected that determines whether that fear is a phobia.

Some phobias are fairly easy to avoid, if they do not regularly appear in ones daily life. However, if you have a specific phobia, you may be fearful of new situations. You may worry that the object of your fear will be present. You may also experience embarrassment and misunderstanding.

The term angrophobia refers specifically to the fear of becoming angry rather than the fear of others becoming angry with you. Not everyone who is afraid of losing their temper suffers from angrophobia. Those with the phobia will go to extremes to avoid getting mad. I Am Angrophobic

Living with a phobia can be difficult. Even if the feared situation does not regularly appear in my daily life, sometimes I find that a lot of time is spent worrying that it may appear or figuring out how to avoid it  and in some cases I avoid social situations   Or direct frequent communication especially with individuals i find, lack of a better word “small”.

I am pretty quiet by nature despite this life raising my voice here and there but in  general, people with angrophobia  become passive and quiet, allowing others to take the lead or rather allowing themselves to be what we call “the bigger person”.I tend to go out of my way to avoid conflicts and sometimes intentionally isolate myself , avoiding social situations that may indicate chance for conflict. Now this is nothing close to easy for me being that I am a lover of the great out doors. A joyful, cultured, curious,  wanna see it all type of traveller.

When conflict does however arise, people with angrophobia tend to look for escape routes. Am sorry am not about to tell you my escape routes but I will say this, chocolate (but that’s a story for another day) I bet if I had a car though, I would be one of those that would take a drive but that can be pretty dangerous when tense. If escape is not possible , I usually withdraw to myself which is often misunderstood and misinterpreted  rather than looked at as therapeutic.

In life, it’s impossible to avoid this emotion. It is a simple fact of being human. Repressing anger and keeping it all bottoled up however can cause depression, sadness and illness. Many of these people  may need treatment in the form of anti-depressants or therapy in order to manage their emotions better and their illness. 

I for one do not want to end up ill or depressed so I  choose to not keep my emotions bottled up least they drive me crazy Or I avoid getting angry at all. Now the thing about speaking up, especially from a rather quiet person, I am Often labeled “you have changed” or “rude” and when I choose the silent way, which I have come to believe is good because it makes them feel good about themselves.🤦🏽‍♀️

As with any phobia, the symptoms vary by person depending on their level of fear. The symptoms typically include extreme anxiety, dread and anything associated with panic such as shortness of breath, rapid breathing, irregular heartbeat, sweating, dry mouth, nausea, inability to articulate words or sentences and shaking. Unlike most phobias, angrophobia is usually self diagonised other than by a Doctor because they symptoms alone or a medical history is not easy to tell by another person other than the individual in question.

It is generally accepted that phobias arise from a combination of external events  and internal predispositions. Many specific phobias can be traced  to a specific triggering event, usually a traumatic experience at an early age. Social phobias and angrophobia  have more complex causes.It is believed that heredity, genetics, and brain chemistry combine with lifeexperiences play a major role in the development of phobias.

Being angrophobic does not mean one is unfriendly or antisocial. If anything they are people who are extroverts and angrophobic. Angrophobic simply means one is afraid of being angry ( nobody likes being angry anyways). Am no expert on phobias not angrophobia itself, all am saying is, if you are ever on a Piss people off rampage, I hope I don’t make the cut. Count me out.

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